{"id":283,"date":"2010-04-22T06:40:42","date_gmt":"2010-04-22T12:40:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.marriagecounseling-longisland.com\/?p=283"},"modified":"2018-10-05T20:17:25","modified_gmt":"2018-10-06T02:17:25","slug":"long-island-marriage-counseling-what-makes-a-great-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marriagecounseling-longisland.com\/index.php\/2010\/04\/long-island-marriage-counseling-what-makes-a-great-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"Long Island Marriage Counseling – What Makes a Great Marriage?"},"content":{"rendered":"

LI Marriage<\/a> Counseling Center, Huntington, NY<\/p>\n

From Dr. Kramer – Give me a call now at 631-553-1476 to make an appointment or email me at Marriage Counseling Long Island<\/a>.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

“Long Island Marriage Counseling – What Makes a Great Marriage?<\/h3>\n

First of all, great marriages are made, not born. I myself learned to have a great marriage by first changing myself so that I was not dependent on my partner for making me feel good about myself. I figured out how to meet most of my Unmet Childhood Needs on my own (such as need for approval, belonging and validation.) Here is a list of criteria for the great marriage. In the coming weeks on this blog, I will continue to write about the great marriage in more detail.<\/p>\n

Criteria for a Great Marriage – Spouses:<\/p>\n

1. Respect and trust each other.<\/p>\n

2. Have similar values about money, monogomy, raising children, lifestyle<\/p>\n

3. Have some interests in common and enjoy spending time together<\/p>\n

4. Are sexually attracted to each other (otherwise you might as well get a roommate)<\/p>\n

5. Both take 100% responsibility for their own self-worth and do not need to feel superior to the other to feel good about themselves.<\/p>\n

6. Both take 100% responsibility for their own self-worth and do not feel inferior to the other<\/p>\n

7. Both are interested in making the relationship work long time<\/p>\n

8. Both are compassionate when the other is sick or upset<\/p>\n

9. Both know the importance of keeping themselves calm and not firing off their ‘fight or flight’ or stress response<\/p>\n

10. Both can be open, authentic and present with each other<\/p>\n

11. Both can talk to each other from ‘I’ positions when feeling upset, rather than attacking, blaming, rationalizing or avoiding<\/p>\n

12. Both can talk from an ‘I’ position when upset and say things like: I am hurt that you… and want to understand. In the future would you…
\nI am disappointed that you… and want to understand. In the future would you… I feel unloved when you… and want to understand. In the future would you…<\/p>\n

Check these points against your own relationship. Patterns can change and many people find that marriage counseling <\/a>improves their relationships.<\/p>\n

From Dr. Kramer – Give me a call now at 631-553-1476 to make an appointment or email me at Marriage Counseling Long Island<\/a>.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Warmly, Diane<\/p>\n

Dr. Diane Kramer, Marrriage Counselor and Psychologist
\nLong Island Marriage Counseling Center <\/a>at Huntington, NY
\n75 Prospect St., Suite 103
\nHuntington, NY 11743
\n631-553-1476<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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